Do Mail Order Brides Really Exist?

Thread Topic: Do Mail Order Brides Really Exist?

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2016-11-04 23:31:02
The answer is Yes, and No, it really depends on

your definition of mail order brides.

The historical roots of the mail-order bride

industry that emerged in the 1800s in the American

frontier: European American men found financial

success in the migration West, but the one thing

that was missing was the company of a wife. Very

few women lived there at this time, so it was hard

for these men to settle down and start a family.

They attempted to attract women living back East;

the men wrote letters to churches and published

personal advertisements in magazines and

newspapers. In return, the women would write to

the men and send them photographs of themselves.

Courtship was conducted by letter, until a woman

agreed to marry a man she had never met.[9] Many

women wanted to escape their present way of

living, gain financial security and see what life

on the frontier could offer them. Most of these

women were single, but some were widows, divorcees

or runaways.

During most of the 20 century, the mail order

bride continued with the main method of women

putting themselves in catalogs. Then men would

view the women's profile, then for a fee order the

women address. These became the main order bride

companies business method in the 20 the century,

with the fall of the Soviet union and cheap

airfares, these companies spread from Asian to

Eastern Europe, mainly now the Ukraine

Today most women do not leave their countries to

escape poverty but to seek a man they believe will

be a good husband and provider, that is family

orientated and that looks at women with more

respect than in many countries around the world.

With the advent of the intent, the mail order

bride industry boomed into a billion dollar

industry, Now with a few pictures and website,

anyone could be in the mail order bride business.

With hundreds of ma and pop shops opening over

the last two decade, Most who were clients of one

of the three original mail order bride companies,

A Foreign Affair (AFA), Anastasia and EC, The

owner of met his wife while

working on a tour from, A Foreign

affair still today in the largest in the

industry, each week they offer tours to one of a

dozen countries China to Peru and everywhere in

between. The industry grew so fast in 1998,

Senator Cantwell of Washington state introduces

legislation to regulate the mail order bride

industry. and a new law Called: "International

Marriage Brokers Act" or IMBRA was born. With

stiff regulations, many companies like Anastasia

moved from Bride business to Fantasy Chat.

Although the industry strongly objects to the

term mail order brides, saying there is no

difference if man in New York courting a woman

from California through, then courting a

woman from Russia. Critics like the Terra Justice

Center has a different out look, saying these men

take advantage of women oversea. But studies have

contradicted these statement and show abuse is

actually lower in these marriages. See

"International Marriages - A Report to Congress"

So why do thousands of women join these site:

Elena Kosalova of the Ukraine says, "Men here are

not serious about family, they expect women to

stay home while they go out each night with their

friends and drink. I want a man who s serious,

mature and who wants to be with his wife and

family. I have met Americans in the past and they

seem more reliable and mature." Elena rejects the

idea she is a "Mail Order Bride"

Why do men seek a mail order bride: James

Goodwin, 43 of South Carolina says, " I meet

women here all the time, but I just can not find

the values I am looking for.. I have dated here

for more than 20 years, After three days in Kiev,

I was shock at how many beautiful women I met that

I would consider marrying, now I am just trying

to reduce my options and pick the right one. It

truly is the fastest way to find a beautiful

sincere women.

So what is the cost, the cost can range greatly

from site to site and from type of service, AFA

or offers everything from letter

writing, tours and executive services for the rich

and famous. As little as $12 to as much as

$25,000. The owner John Adams say's the best way

is just go over and meet then women, avoid letters

and never waste money on expensive chat. You can

meet up to 1000 beautiful women in just 10 days,

it will be the greatest vacation of your life. Joe

Nail of, has stayed with the

traditional Letter Writing, Each letter is $7.50

and but say they do plan on offer some limited

chat option.

Many sites like,,, and,

that offer simple unlimited membership for $29 per

month. These type of site also target pacific

regions, like Asia, Latin America or Eastern


There is also a site for mail order grooms;, that caters to men publishing

their photos in hopes to meet an American Bride.

James Dunn, who is a ghost writer for review

sites says "You get what you pay for. Membership

sites to do not screen the members at all. so you

never know who you really are writing, The big

boys require the women to apply in person in one

of their local offices. The companies that offer

group tours will introduce you to hundreds of

beautiful women, for the cost of $1000 to $3000

depending on location, about the same you would

pay for any vacation. Several companies also do

individual tours these can range from $750 to

$1500, But only arrange one to one introductions,

Always make sure they are biased in the USA or

EU, Most of the complaints come from small

agencies that are desperate and need to make as

much as they can from you. Just a note, if the

company is based in an a foreign country you will

have no recourse if they do not follow through.

So do mail order brides exist, If you belive a if

a woman is a mail order bride if she lives in

another county then Yes, But if you believe it

just another dating option like any on-line dating

site, matchmaker or dating service, than No. . It

really seems like a doubled standard in the world,

If a women meets a man in Italy or France, then

oh that is so romantic, but if a man meets a women

in Philippines, than ....

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